5 Warning Signs That Your Mate is Tired of Your Relationship

There’s no better way to say it: breakups suck. An even worse scenario that many women
have experienced is being blindsided by the news that your partner wants out. The shock,
pain, unexpectedness, and confusion can be hard to bear. There are, however, tell-tale
signs that give fair warning that trouble is brewing and breakup is looming.
Once you have the ability to notice the signs, make the decision to address the
relationship issues before it’s too late. Better yet, turn the tables and end the relationship
first, on your terms. As unpleasant as the entire situation may be, it is always better to do
the dumping than be the dumpee.

Warning Sign #1: Dreaded Distance
A major warning sign that something is amiss in any

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DO you Agree: 7 Things Women Usually Lie About »

Men
should just realize that a woman can never have too
many pairs of wedge heels and not place her in the
position of lying.
1. THEIR WEIGHT: One of the things women commonly lie
about is their weight. This is probably the thing they
most commonly lie about. Even the most honest woman
may be shaving five pounds off of her weight when she
is asked about it. No woman wants to appear as a large
woman. She wants to be seen as petite and delicate.
2. THEIR AGE: Ageing is difficult, especially for women.
As men age, they become more distinguished. As women
age, well, we just feel like we become old. And that
reality is hard to swallow for some of us so we lie about
it. It doesn't make us any younger to lie about our age
but it might make us feel a little younger and that is a
temptation that many cannot resist.
3. THEIR COOKING: None of us can deny the fact that we live in a very fast paced world. We
don’t have time to cook the things we would like to cook as long as we would like to cook
them. Many, many women have attempted to pass off a store bought goody as one they
prepared themselves. Even if they don’t say it in as many words, they may attempt to give that
impression by placing the food item in a personal dish. At the very least, they won’t reveal
their secrets.
4. THEIR SHOPPING HABITSMany women also lie about their shopping habits. But really, that
should be understandable. Men should just realize that a woman can never have too many
pairs of wedge heels and not place her in the position of lying. Wouldn’t you agree, ladies?
Many women lie about their shopping habits to keep an argument down.
5. THE MONEY THEY SPEND: Going hand in hand with lying about their shopping habits is the
fact that many women lie about how much money they spend. They may not totally lie but just
stretch the truth a little on this subject. They may spend it on having their hair or nails done,
shopping, lunch with a friend or just little inconsequential things. But the temptation to lie
about how much money they spend, especially if they are married, can be quite high. A little
white lie seems much better than an ugly argument.
6. THEIR MARRIAGE: Many women choose to present a prettier picture than there really is of
their marriage. I actually don’t believe that this is totally a bad thing. While I do believe lying
outright is very wrong, I believe painting your spouse in the best light is the best thing to do
for yourself, for them and your marriage. When you choose to talk positively about your
spouse, everybody wins. You feel better about them, they feel better about you and your
marriage benefits.
7. THEIR LIFE: Many women don’t want to admit dissatisfaction with their lives, even to
themselves. And while putting on a brave face is a noble thing to do, it isn’t always the best
thing to do. If you are struggling with things in your life, go to a friend or a trusted counselor
or religious leader for counsel. We all have hard times and we should help each other through
them. It is much better to talk about how wonderful your life is when it really is.

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15 Reasons to Date a Lawyer..by jennifer's Signature

Ignore all of those cynical lawyer jokes. There are plenty of amazing things about attorneys…
here are just 15 of them!

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When He’s Too Afraid to Take theRelationship to the Next Level By Jennifer's Signature

What’s that sound in the distance? It might be your friends shouting, “Yeah, right!” I’m talking about what people really think about the relationship put-off that’s as old as the hills: “I’m too afraid/nervous/ scared to take the relationship to the next level.” Decoded, what does this statement really mean? And is it a pure put-off, or is it ever true? Let’s be honest: Guys are usually the bearers of this lame dating line. While generalizations are often wrong or highly embellished, it is true that many men feel afraid of commitment and emotional intimacy in a way that many women don’t. Take a quick detour with me to life inside my house with my 4-year-old daughter and a 6-year-old son. While he plays solitarily in the

living room with his cars, my daughter sits next to me in the other room and feeds her doll with a toy bottle. Until I became a parent, I always believed gender differences were mostly socialized. Well, my kids’ distinct preferences for play remind me that a lot of the differences between males and females may be biologically based. In other words, maybe males and females largely behave as they do because of their gender, rather than in spite of them. Without question, many gender differences seen in young children’s behavior (males preferring combative play or hyperactive play, females engaging in relationship-based behavior with dolls or friends) seem to continue later in life, though they are manifested in different ways later. When it comes to romantic relationships, it is certainly possible (though not provable) that one’s gender determines at least part of the way they approach sex and commitment. In my clinical work, I find that women seek a committed relationship at higher rates than men.

 When a man says he’s not ready to take the relationship to the next level, what does that really mean? This behavior typically reflects that a man wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He likes the freedom to play the field, or the freedom of not being officially tied down in a permanent way so that he could play the field should he choose to do so. While that may be fine for him, what about for you? What to Say and Do in Response: When a guy tells you that he isn’t ready for commitment, it’s time to have an adult conversation about the status of the relationship and whether each of your most important emotional needs are getting met. Example: You’ve been dating Guy X for a year. When you suggest moving in together, he pumps the breaks and moans about how he isn’t ready to take the relationship to the next level. In the moment, simply digest it. Take a minute and sit with it, and tell him that you’re not sure what to say. (It is often a good idea to press pause in these conversations and regroup a little later after you’ve had a moment to get some perspective.) Sometimes there is nothing that needs to be said, but rather an inventory must be taken to determine how to best proceed. Your inventory requires asking yourself a few basic questions. Take a mental health day (with a bubble bath, yoga, or a run in the park) and ask yourself the questions below. Overall, have I had a good relationship with this person? Is this someone I can definitely see myself wanting to spend a good chunk of my life with? Is this someone who will always make a good parent, friend or co-worker if he were not to change much at all in the future? (Warning: The last question is the clincher.) If I were to break up with him, how confident am I that I could meet someone else with whom I could have a happy, committed relationship? If the answers to the first three questions are “yes,” but the answer to the fourth one is “no” or “not sure,” watch out. This particular constellation of thoughts and feelings indicates that you may be prone to staying in a relationship – even if you’re unhappy – out of fear that nothing better exists for you. If your answers to any of the first three questions involve a “no” answer, you know what you need to do – and it doesn’t involve planning a wedding. Once you’ve taken inventory with these crucial questions, your only healthy choices are to: 1) Hit the road, or… 2) Give him a time frame during which he must figure out what he wants to do. If you want to make the relationship work, consider giving him six months. Tell him that you’ll still be together during this period, but that you might detach a little emotionally to figure out your needs and make sure that the two of you are on the same page. Ultimately, I know that finding someone isn’t easy and that it can be downright scary to end a relationship after you’ve been in it for a while. When your romantic life is in limbo, make an extra effort to reach out to friends and family for emotional support. Take this time to develop parts of yourself that have gone dormant for years – and, yes, I am talking about those tennis lessons you’ve been putting off, or that garden you’ve talked about starting for years. In short, when the romance department is struggling, invest as much or more in the other areas of your life. If you do so, you will find balance – and your way to a more compatible partner.

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Three Ways to Bounce Back from Rejection..By Jennifer's Signature @a_dunka

Anyone who enters the dating world is bound to encounter rejection. Whether your online
messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from
the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections
have one thing in common — they really hurt. What makes rejection even more painful is that
any effort to understand what went wrong can easily lead to bouts of self-criticism and self-
blaming.
Did they reject you because you’re not tall enough, smart enough, attractive enough, rich
enough, educated enough, or hip enough? What was the reason? Then you start to second
guess everything you did and said. You berate yourself for disclosing your fascination with
sea urchins, for ordering noodle soup and making slurping noises, or for joking about how
you got the scar on your middle finger.
All this self-punishment makes you feel utterly miserable and you wonder when you became
so weak, needy, or desperate. You must be, otherwise you wouldn’t hurt so much, right?
Wrong.
Here’s why:
Recent studies placed people in fMRI machines (scanners that look at what happens in our
brains when we’re thinking or doing something) and asked them to think about a painful and
recent rejection. What they found was shocking. The same pathways in the brain became
activated when people experienced a rejection as when they experienced physical pain. In
fact, the overlap was so substantial, that when researchers gave people the pain reliever
Acetaminophen (Tylenol) and put them through a rejection experience, they reported feeling
significantly less emotional pain than those who did not receive Tylenol. That’s why
rejections hurt as much as they do, not because there’s anything wrong with you — because
you’re simply wired that way.
Fortunately, there are three steps you can take to ease the emotional pain you’re bound to
feel after being rejected:
Argue with self-criticism . Although it’s natural to feel self-critical after a rejection, there is
little point in ‘going there’. Most rejections have much more to do with compatibility and
chemistry than they do with any specific shortcoming or flaw. Even if you seemed to click
with the other person, the reality is, you just didn’t click enough. And if they felt insufficient
compatibility, you would likely have felt it yourself at some point as well. Therefore, there is
utterly no point in trying to blame yourself or any perceived flaw you might have. Unless the
person looked you in the eye and said something specific such as, “Sorry, I’m just not into
dimples,” chalk it up to insufficient chemistry. And if they give you the, “It’s not you, it’s
me,” speech — believe them. In fact, even if they don’t, assume it’s them nonetheless. It
probably is anyway, and your self-esteem will thank you for it.
Revive your self-esteem . Now that you’ve given your self-worth a breather from self-criticism,
you need to help it revive. The best way to revive your self-esteem is to remind yourself of
qualities and attributes you possess that you believe are valuable. Specifically, make a list of
qualities you have that are important in dating and relationships such as being loyal, caring,
supportive, considerate, a good listener, a great cook, a good kisser, and as many others as
you can think of. Choose one of these attributes and write a brief essay (a paragraph or two)
about why the quality matters to you, why a future partner would find it valuable, how you’ve
expressed it in past dating or relationship scenarios, or how you would do so in the future.
Write one or two essays a day until you feel better about yourself. Keep in mind that for the
exercise to have the desired impact on your self-esteem — you must write it out. So don’t
skip that crucial step and do it in your head — write.
Restore a sense of belonging. One of the theories about why rejection causes such sharp
emotional pain is that in our distant past, being ostracized from our tribe was pretty much a
death sentence. Consequently, we developed a mechanism to warn us of when we were at
danger for being ousted from our tribe and as a result, we became exquisitely sensitive to
rejection. The legacy of those tribal days is that even minor rejections can destabilize our
‘need to belong’, to feel as though we’re accepted and loved by our core group. To address
this often unconscious pang, reach out to good friends or family members and try to see
them in person. Doing so will remind you that you are a valued and respected member of your
‘tribe’.
Rejections are an extremely common emotional ‘injury’
and they always hurt. But taking these three steps will
help you heal the emotional wounds they create, recover
your confidence and bounce back quicker and stronger
than you would have otherwise.

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Are you a side chick??

Has anyone here seen the movie ‘I think I love my wife”?? I got the inspiration to write this
article from the movie. What is SIDE CHICK??? More appropriate: Who is a SIDE CHICK???
According to an online dictionary,
SIDE CHICK can be said to be the other woman; also known as the mistress; a female that
is neither a male’s wife nor girlfriend who has relations with
the male while he is in
another relationship. Check out this conversation between two friends:
Lola: Look at Tina and Bayo…are they going out?
Tolu: No Lola! Bayo is dating Funmi. Tina is just his sidechick
The Side Chick, the Mistress, the Other Woman, a vixen to some, an evil temptress to
others, whatever name you may have for her, she has tramped her way all across the
media making a reputation for herself as a sexy, influential, classy, and potentially
destructive force to be reckoned with in a man’s life! The Side Chick has so much appeal
these days, that I heard that in the movie, “I Think I Love My Wife,” more actresses
auditioned for the side chick role than did the wife’s role. Why does the side chick have so
much sex appeal? I have come up with two reasons (really one when you think about it):
she’s usually beautiful, and she works hard to please and appeal to the guy that she’s
after.
The Side Chick usually “keeps her game tight,” meaning that she has put a lot of energy
and hard work into her appearance and presentation. When she walks by, guys have taken
notice, sometimes to their demise if they foolishly stare while presently with their wife or
girlfriend! Married couples and other couples in committed relationships, both men and
women, tend to get complacent in their relationships, under a notion that now that they
have their significant other, they don’t have to put a lot of energy into their appearance. If
a potential side chick discovers this about the main woman of the man she’s after, usually
she’ll not only try to look her best when he’s around, she may even take it further and find
out what he likes, whether it’s miniskirts, fish net panty hose etc, or if he likes certain
body parts of a woman, she’ll wear clothes that accentuate that area of her frame. She’s a
marketer and she plays for keeps so if you have a man (and you want to keep him… lol),
“keep your game tight” even if he has convinced you that he isn’t going anywhere. Just
because you got him doesn’t mean that you should stop doing things that make him still
chase after you!
If a potential sidechick doesn’t have a lot going on with her appearance and presentation,
she may just present herself as “easy” and “shameless.” And though she’s okay with being
merely one of the women in a man’s life, a Side Chick can also be a skilled researcher and
developer in the area of what her targeted man likes. She may throw herself at him and see
how he responds (“easy” and “shameless” can be very effective “marketing campaigns” for
her), or she may covertly ‘friend’ the husband or boyfriend and gathers intelligence on him
as to:
1. what he likes
2. and what his wife or girlfriend isn’t doing for him that he wishes she would do for
him.
If a girlfriend/fiancée/wife isn’t careful, the Side Chick may even befriend HER and gather
intelligence on the guy. Again, if you have a man and you want to keep him, keep him
happy.
Women who are comfortable with the role of a side chick can be likened to a hurricane, if
you aren’t prepared for one, they can be devastating to a relationship, a family, and even a
man’s general successes and hard work.
Some ladies are happy being sidechicks. They only need guidelines and laid down rules
that will make them the perfect ‘other’ woman. Don’t blame them though, not every girl can
be lucky to hold the number 1 position in a man’s life. The part 2 of this article will focus
on the Basic Rules for SideChick. Situations around me have made it clear to me that
some side chicks are confused about their role in relationships. In the spirit of helping all
the “other women” out there, I will offer some rules that can help them succeed in their role
as sidechicks.
ARE U A SIDE CHICK???
Yours in Press,
Adeniran Olugbenga

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Is your relationship costing you too much? by Jennifers Signature

Have you ever blamed yourself for giving too much in a relationship? If you have, you’ve probably felt resentment for not getting back what you feel is owed for all your effort. On top of that, if the man you gave so much to has moved on to someone else, it feels like that woman is now getting the benefits that should have gone to you. Thinking about how you gave so much can keep you awake at night, as you beat yourself up for being so foolish. But a better use of that time would be to ask yourself why you let yourself give so much and get so little in return? What drove you to settle for crumbs when you were feeding him the whole cake? The answer is simple. You were in a “pay as you go” relationship. How does that happen? Most likely things started out strong and it seemed like he really cared. But most relationships (unless you’re with “the one”) start to fizzle and burn out and that’s when we women panic. We start to feel that it’s up to us to

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Ladies: 7 things ruining your beautiful skin

1. NOT TAKING OFF YOUR MAKEUP This is the number one of seven bad habits that are damaging your skin, and I think you all know why. My grandmother always told me to take off my eye makeup as it causes wrinkles and infections, and I never used to listen, until now. I now realize this is so important ladies, as wrinkles around your eyes are the number one thing we do not want.

2. CHEWING GUM Weird right? We rely on gum to take away our nasty breath after that garlic lunch, but some experts actually say that it can be doing your skin damage. The idea behind this theory is that since the muscles in

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Actress Stella Damascus advices women on how to keep their men

Actress Stella Damasus took to her Adiva blog yesterday to advice women on how to keep their men. Read it below "...let me go to the topic I want to discuss today "keeping your man" This is for the married women o please this is not targeted at single girls. Now we know that the one thing men cannot live without apart from money is SEX. In this forum I really don't care where anyone is from or what religion you belong to, I will be as raw and honest as possible. I do not understand why women especially Africans do not talk about sex when we know that it is the one thing we do regularly with so much pleasure. Read the full article after the cut...

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An Open Letter To All Single Ladies- Charly Boy

If you’re a single lady…this message is for you from Mr Charles Oputa All the single ladies reading this, chin-up and give your good self a thumb up. Nothing doest thou. Last week I had a father/daughter discussion with my Princess. I could feel the frustration in her tone as we spoke about different issues. When I asked about her boyfriend she gave me a very long and irritated “Naija babe” hiss, she aired out her frustrations with this whole dating business. “Daddy we are no longer dating.” “I’m so very sorry my love, but what happened I queried,” very anxious to hear the gist, cause me and my Princess are just that close. This is my daughter’s 3rd boyfriend since she started dating, and she has only been with him for barely 6months… “Daddy, please I’m tired, he is

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How to Spot (and Avoid) Ms. Wrong

If you are a man venturing out in the dating world, here is a subject certainly near and dear to your heart: How to steer clear of the woman who is likely to grab your life and shake it upside down by the ankles. A romantic thrill ride is one thing — to be desired is part of the appeal of falling in love. But most men secretly live in fear of the woman who seems normal enough after a couple of dates, then turns out to be a crazy-maker. Even with the best of intentions, she sets you spinning and struggling to keep your balance. You’d think it would be easy to see a partner like that coming a mile away, but it isn’t always so. That’s because Ms. Wrong can also be energetic, charismatic, charming, creative, and very persuasive. There is a disorienting hum of activity around her that draws you in to her emotional power grid — usually a one-way arrangement working almost exclusively to her benefit. The best defense is to know what a crazy-maker looks like and be alert for early warning signs that you have found one. Here are five “tells” that will give you a heads-up:

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It is right to be Jealous, But... "Jennifer's Signature"

A little jealousy is a good tonic for your relationship,but when you go overboard with it,it becomes a negative feeling that could lead to a disatrous consequences. You need to understand how to deal with jealousy in a relationship. How?

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5 DATING GAMES YOU PLAY THAT GET IN THEWAY OF TRUE LOVE

We attempt to make someone jealous to make them want us more. This plan will most likely backfire, for one main reason: it’s not classy. It doesn’t make you look good, so if it’s something you have done before,…. Have you ever looked back and wondered what happened to the one that got away? Perhaps you inadvertently sabotaged something wonderful, because you were playing the typical (yet dangerous) dating games. A successful relationship requires two mature participants who know what they want and aren’t afraid to go for it. If you don’t want a hot prospect to say “game over”, avoid playing the following five dating games to increase your chances of really winning:

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10 REASONS WHY SAYING ‘I LOVE YOU’ TOO SOON SUCKS-"Jennifer's signature"

#1 The guessing game is over. The excitement of playing hard to get with each other is what makes falling in love so much fun. Both of you like each other a lot, can’t stop touching each other and feel so good inside every time both of you meet. You’re not in a relationship yet, but both of you are falling hard for each other already. If you say ‘I love you’ too soon, the excitement of wondering what’s on each other’s minds would end overnight. It’s not a bad thing, but a longer courting almost always gives a better chance for a longer relationship because both of you waited before taking the plunge.

#2 Are you an obsessive lover? Some people are obsessive lovers. They jump into a new relationship with someone as soon as one relationship ends because they can’t stay single. They love being in love, and need love to feel complete. These kinds of

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Moochers, Mama's Boys and More - 6 Relationship Red Flags-by Jennifer's Signature

You watch the relationship red flags waving at you, but gosh, he’s just so good-looking. So you dismiss them to see where the relationship will go. The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. You'll end up hurt and resentful, even though you could have protected yourself. The following are six  warning signals of a doomed relationship

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Rihanna Is SO Over Chris Brown! NO Regrets!

Sorry Chris Brown, Rihanna is so done with being heartbroken over you!

After years and years of punches and disses during their on-and-offtumultuous relationship, RiRi is LOVING life without Breezy.

A source dished:

“She doesn’t miss him. She doesn’t miss the drama. Nobody has time for that.”

That's right! No one should spend that much time dealing with so much dramz, especially someone as busy as the mega successful superstar!

Does this mean she's done throwing shade his way??!

We love it when she is fiesty, but if she REALLY doesn't give a f*ck, gurl would stop giving him ANY thought or attention at all.

It's time to shut the doors on the sour feelings she has for Chris and truly enjoy the freedom of the single life!!!

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Relationship experiment: How to date a friend in 40 days (MUST READ)

What do you do when you’re tired of the prospect of dating? Two good friends with opposite relationship problems found themselves single at the same time. As an experiment, they dated for 40 days.
Jessica Walsh is a designer. She is a hopeless romantic who jumps into relationships very quickly.  Also a designer, Timothy Goodman is afraid of commitment & tends to date many girls at the same time.
Why 40 days? It’s been said that it takes 40 days to change

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Comedian Chris Rock to divorce wife of 16 years?

From Star Magazine, 

Chris Rock may be a comedian, but the current state of his 16-year marriage is no laughing matter – because the actor and his wife, Malaak Compton-Rock, have called it quits!

The shocking news surfaced in late June when Chris’ brother, Tony Rock, made light of the situation during a performance at the Hollywood Improve Comedy Club. “Tony poked fun at his brother’s divorce during one of his acts. An audience member tells Star. “He said, “I’m not supposed to tell y’all this, but Chris is getting a divorce. I’m so happy because now we can get p***y together. I didn’t like her anyway.”

Sources say Chris,48, grew tired of having to answer to 44-year-old Malaak. “There’s been many arguments behind closed doors,” spills the insider. “Malaak is very controlling and demanding.”

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My Fiancé Wiped Away My Shame - - Tiwa Savage

In a recent interview with Vanguard newspaper, songstress Tiwa Savage opened up about her feelings for her manager and fiancé Tee Billz. When asked if there was any track dedicated to her him, she answered: "Yes, there's this track Written All Over Your Face. I dedicated the song to him for the role he played in my life.

I met him at a time when no one was ready to help, because I am a female artiste. Whenever I wanted to give up and cry, sometimes, he encouraged me to be strong and move on. He's my back-bone. I love him, because he's been there for me. He wiped my shame away when he put a ring on my finger."

When asked if she was scared of competition in the Nigerian music industry, she replied: "Why would I be scared? Back in America, we have the likes of Beyoncé, Nicky Minaj, Mariah Carey and other female acts standing tall.

So, why would there be just one person shining here? After all, here in Nigeria, we have male acts like Davido, Wizkid, M.I, Tuface and other big names at the same time. It is not fair to have just one female act in the industry. So, I'm glad that more female acts are springing up. Having more female acts in the industry will open more doors."

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Rihanna Hooking up with Drake?

According to MediaTakeOut. com, Rihanna is back together with Drake. This was confirmed today's morning by a person who was on Rihanna's tour. According to the person, Drake and Rihanna have been spending time together. Drake has been flying around the world to secretly meet her.

The insider said that there is history behind Drake and Rihanna. It seems they want to take it forward to a real relationship.

Chris Brown and Rihanna have broken up recently. Chris Brown admitted during an interview with Australian radio show, The Kyle and Jackie O Show, the relationship came to an end

After that, both of them expressed their anger on Twitter. The 24-year-old singer tweeted on June 8 that she can't be of her if she is everybody else's. Fine China singer may be suggesting that Rihanna cheated on him. It could also be her busy schedule with the Diamonds World Tour.

He said, "I mean, at the end of the day, shawty doing her own thang, she on the road. It's always gonna be love. I'm a grown man, just gotta fast forward".

According to RadarOnline, Rihanna had to end friendship with several friends because of Brown. Katty Perry ended her friendship with Rihanna because she disagreed with her to give Brown a second chance.

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