We attempt to make someone jealous to make them want us more. This plan will
most likely backfire, for one main reason: it’s not classy. It doesn’t make you look
good, so if it’s something you have done before,….
Have you ever looked back and wondered what happened to the one that got away?
Perhaps you inadvertently sabotaged something wonderful, because you were
playing the typical (yet dangerous) dating games. A successful relationship requires
two mature participants who know what they want and aren’t afraid to go for it. If
you don’t want a hot prospect to say “game over”, avoid playing the following five
dating games to increase your chances of really winning:
1. You only want what you can’t have
Even if there was great potential, this game can ruin everything. We sometimes tend
to ignore someone amazing who is right in front of us, if they’re too available or too
interested. Our focus gravitates towards someone unavailable — someone who is
hard to get. A cultivated person will wear their heart on their sleeve, and show their
interest — so unless you want someone juvenile in your life, don’t play this game.
2. You play hard to get
Ever heard the saying “if you play with fire, you’re bound to get burned”? Well if you
play it too cool, you could damage things with someone who is too mature for
games and doesn’t have patience for them. This person is too good to wait around
for icy things to defrost. Most people see right through the hard to get game, and
often will leave for someone who is showing more interest and being more open
about their feelings.
3. You try to evoke jealousy
Most of us are guilty of this one. We attempt to make someone jealous to make them
want us more. This plan will most likely backfire, for one main reason: it’s not
classy. It doesn’t make you look good, so if it’s something you have done before, try
not to repeat the mistake.
4. You give mixed signals
Noone likes to be kept guessing or to feel uncertain, especially when they like
someone. One of the most attractive qualities is a mature person who is clear about
their feelings and lays it out on the line, providing clarity and a mutual
understanding. The best part is, you just might find that this person is looking for
exactly the same thing as you, and will respect where you are coming from.
5. The withholding dance
Whether you’re withholding affection, attention, or honesty, this is a momentum
killer. If things are going well, you want it to keep going forward — so don’t wait two
weeks to ask someone out again, or only text them once every five days. A couple
needs for things to progress in order to be successful.
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