You watch the relationship red
flags waving at you, but gosh, he’s just so
good-looking. So you dismiss them to see
where the relationship will go. The problem
with turning a blind eye to those red flags is
that eventually they’ll come back to haunt
you. You'll end up hurt and resentful, even
though you could have protected yourself.
The following are six warning signals of a
doomed relationship
. Plus: Are you over your
ex?
To find that future partner you'll spend the
rest of your life with, dating is necessary to
separate the good from the bad, the
complementary from the distracting.
Anyone who has ever been in the dating
scene knows that you’ll encounter just about
every type of guy imaginable.
But one thing’s for sure – the more you
date, the more relationship red flags you’re
bound to watch fly… and possibly ignore in
pursuit of love.
So what are these warning signs and what do you do when you spot
them? Read on to find out...
Unless you’re just in it for a fling or,
ignoring relationship red flags isn't the
smartest move to make if you’re serious
about finding that special someone.
In the end, when you're asking why it all
went wrong, it's usually those relationship
red flags that were your first indicator to
move on.
Find out why the following relationship red
flags should have you saying “Next!” when
it comes to embarking on a new
relationship.
1. He still lives at home
More and more adults are still living at
home these days.
So if it’s more common, should it really be
considered a relationship red flag?
Yes! Men who still live at home are usually
in no hurry to grow up, become
independent or financially responsible. Are
those the kind of traits you really want in a
future partner? (See related article: He’s Not
‘The One’ )
The only time it might be acceptable for a
man to still be living at home is if he’s
taking care of aging parents or has
temporarily fallen on hard times. In these
cases, give him a temporary break.
2. He never invites you over
He’s quick to suggest hanging out at your
place but never offers up his own digs.
This could clearly be a sign of concealment
and should definitely be considered as a
relationship red flag. Maybe his home includes a family he’s not
telling you about. Or maybe he's a hopeless
slob whose home resembles the aftermaths
of a hurricane.
Never inviting you over (or never wanting
to be seen in public with you, not giving
you contact info, giving you vague answers,
etc.) could mean he’s cheating on someone
else or it could simply mean that he’s
embarrassed of something.
Whatever it is, you want a potential future
partner to be open and honest with you
about simple things in your relationship.
3. He’s moving too quickly
Be aware of someone who moves at the
speed of light when trying to win you over.
Moving too quickly is usually a sign that
he’s uncomfortable being by himself or he’s
looking for a woman to help solve his
problems. Asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly
or even spilling loads of very personal
information all point to desperation.
Besides it being unattractive, clinginess and
bad judgment are not traits you want a
future partner to have.
Be especially wary if he has children he’s
too quick to put you ahead of.
4. He constantly talks bad about an ex
He may not like his ex, but there’s no
reason he should continue an ongoing
verbal assault on her, no matter how sour
the relationship went.
Not only is he offering too much
information, but it makes him look tacky,
resentful and unwilling to take
responsibility for his shortcomings in the
relationship.
Plus, if your relationship doesn’t work out,
would you want him to hold a grudge,
constantly talking bad about you later on? Be aware of a guy who talks too freely about
past relationships or exes in general -
especially if it’s all negative. He may be
dealing with a heavy load of unresolved
anger. And you certainly don't want to bear
the brunt of any future resentment.
5. Excessive Parental Attachment
It is one thing to love your mother and
father, but it’s another thing to have an
excessive relationship with them when
you’re an adult.
“Excessive” in these terms means “being a
mama’s boy,” only having your parents as
your friends, letting your parents influence
you in every facet of your life, etc. (See
related article: Is Your Husband a Mama’s
Boy? )
Besides, excessive parental attachment
doesn’t bode well in a marriage because
he’ll probably put them ahead of you, which
will undoubtedly damage your relationship.
6. He’s fresh out of a relationship
Timing can be everything, but when you
could potentially get involved in a rebound
relationship, it may be time to move on.
While rebound relationships occasionally
work out for the best, it’s usually one of the
relationship red flags to be very cautious of.
If you’ve been through a break-up, you
know that it takes a long time to completely
recover.
Chances are if he’s fresh out of a
relationship, he’s going through the
recovery process, which leaves him little
time to completely focus on you.
He may also be using you to temporarily fill
his loneliness, whether he realizes it or not.
If you do nothing else, at least take heed of
these relationship red flags, no matter how
great his other attributes may be.
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